Wednesday, November 30, 2005

A tribute to My Father



This is my dad, who died in a road accident last year. Ohh!! How I hate those people who drive rashly!! Fast Driving Cannot mean irresponsible driving!

My dad got knocked out by a motor bike on 10th May 2004 on a lonely road near our house - he fell & hit his head and never recovered. He expired on 13th May 2004 after being on the respirator for 3 days due to multiple brain hemorrhage. And I watched him on the bed lying there and I looked at him after the autopsy (in India we have to go through this in case of accidental deaths) & I shuddered to see death finally!!

I post his photograph here as my tribute to him and dedicate my site to him as he was the one who taught me photo graphy. He belonged to that era when people in India used to colour their photos by painting them.

When I saw him lie there brain dead and me too helpless to help him,
I wish I had hugged him when I had the time.
[click here] I share my thoughts for all those who lost their loved ones.

He himself took this photo of his in his web camera for us to keep in case he died!!

(Incidentally he learnt computers- email, surfing, webcam chatting, word, excel etc at the age of 70, which is a mighty novel thing for India where computers came in much later than advanced countries).

18 comments:

reena said...

Hi!

I've found your blog accidentaly. I was going to write on mine and then I saw the link...

My parents are from India but I was born in Spain so I haven't had the pleasure of meeting my grandparents :(

My father died 4 years ago and I'm with you. I know what you're trying to explain.

My father was incinerated and I couldn't say goodbye to him. My little brother had to burn his body...I hate those traditions....

Matter if I add your blog to my favourites?

Thanks for your blog!

ShantanuDas said...

Sure of course!! You, in fact, are my first visitor who has commented on my blog. I do understand what you have said and felt..... because I felt it too so suddenly. Glad to know you. I will add you too okay? Pl do keep coming for more as I build my blogs. It will be a lifetime habit now. bye

reena said...

Thanks for adding me! I think I should write my blog in english hahaha The photos are not mine. I publish all photos I see in the Internet that means something to me...They usually have the owner's name...or I try to. I have a photo gallery where I submit my own photographs. If you would like to visit it go to http://reee.deviantart.com

I will visit you again. I promise.

ShantanuDas said...

Hii Reena, I actually liked your pcitures, was thinking what they are. were they painitings, or something else. Spanish lang sounds very poetic actually, but yeah one needs to understand (haha).

I am trying to develop this blog site into a real photoblog and not just use it like a gallery. For now it seems very much like a gallery, I know. But I know as I go on I will get ideas an more tools from the web to do what I want. I will visit your gallery and link to it on this page too. Bye for now

reena said...

Hi again! Thanks for visiting my gallery. For leaving a comment there you have to be a registered user (I'm sorry!) and...I agree with you. My mind goes faster than me and need more time for doing all the things I want! it's a horrible sensation...

ShantanuDas said...

Ohh no problems!! If registration is free I will register. If it is not, then I will just visit for time being and see. I have been modifying this page since long time.. and have just found some wrok around as I am not good at HTML but serves for now I guess. I have pushed my post on my dad to sidebar so that it will always remain visible. And now new messages will not push it down to the bottom or archives.

Anonymous said...

I accidentaly stumbled on your blog while looking for good indian pictures and I found the post about tragedy affecting your family. I can understand your helplessness and your grief. May God give you all the strength which your father always wanted you to have. Try to be a better man everyday and I think that will be the best tribute to your dad.

Siddharth
http://drsiddharth.blogspot.com

ShantanuDas said...

A lot many thanks for the warm message. Life is tough and we have to keep on recovering!! Thans again.

Anonymous said...

I read your blog and wept with you. You have hugged your father here. It is bad that good people die thus. May God give you strength to pursue your life in the manner your family upbringing would want.
Aravind

ShantanuDas said...

Thanks Aravind. Thanks for empathising with me. Even today I have not been able to forget my pain seeing my dad on deathbead - already brain dead... whoever said time is the best healer is wrong.. some pains never die.... but yes they make us stronger perhaps...

Gopal Aggarwal said...

hello

I don't know you personally, but Death of someone elder is sth that I have seen and dealt with point blank (my grandfather, otherwise healthy but a sudden brain haemorrhage...)

Well, as they say "Time is the greatest healer"- it is not true...Time only dulls the feelings because Life rarely allows the privilege of mourning.

Hmmm, you could put it this way that your Father is really happy at your gesture :)

All I want to say is that ALL is God's Grace

regards,
Gopal
India

ShantanuDas said...

Thanks!!!

Seemu said...

I read this just now. It's too bad... have no words or this...

I understand the grief. My father lost his youngest brother in a road accident too... a truck driver hit him and never cared to stop dragging his body cruelly through the streets until he somehow got freed from the truck...

Witness say he wanted to say something but never could complete it... and worst thing... my dad saw the mangled body of his brother (as he was passing by in a bus) on the streets, didn't recognise him (coz he was that badly disfigured) and came back home... later on he came to know... I know his mind still hurts and he'll never forget this... nor can any of us...

ShantanuDas said...

I know what you mean about pain... it never goes away really. Thanks. And I understand your family's pain too.

unplaned plan said...

apnaar bolger bisoyguli khoob avinabo mone holo.pratyektii alada alda vabe bhalo.kacher manuser dure cole jaoata sabsamoyei bedonadayak r ei byatha kono eksamoye amakeo peera diyechilo...ajo daye.photographyr byaparta bolte gele apnar babar chobir je postguli dekhlam seguloi amar monke vison chuye gelo,hoyto ta amar pachonder sange besiii mile gelo taaii!
valo thakben

ShantanuDas said...

Shottyi,, betha kokhono choley jayey na.. time never really heals.. the pain still remains deep within.. ami apnakey kintu tumi bolbo.. karon.. ager post-A tumi boley phelechi.. ekhon aar apni bolar kono maney hoyey na. Amar bhalo laglo jey tumi ei post-A esecho shob post-er moddhey.. ei postay ekta link achey bodhay dekhey thakbey.. jekhaney ami likhechilam ki hoeychilo amar monayr modhhhey shei shomoy.. sheta chilo amar first blogpost... bhalo thakbo? hmm dhonnyobaad!! tumiO theko Bhalo...life sometimes needs good wishes.. I think .. unconditional good wishes from unknown people. probably makes a greater effect on us? who knows!

unplaned plan said...

humm satyiiii.....jiboner cholar pothe mone hoy jeno jana ajana sakoler suveccha monke baroi shanti daye,anondo daye.jibone kasto byatha egulo to thakbei ,sathe jodi paoa jay emon nihsarto suveccha bartaa....nijeke baro dhanyo mone hoy.r eguloi mone hoy mon valo korar anonyo upadaan.egulo niyei valo theko.
by the by tomar ei profile er chobiti kintu bes valo.sisuder mukher ei innocent hasita je ki durlav!!amra jato baro hote thaki seguloi hariye jay kromoso jibon theke.

ShantanuDas said...

Thik E bolecho.. amar-o nijer bhalo lagey ei chobi ta... profile-A debar parey ekhon roj-E dekhtey pari.. bhabi.. kothay gelo shei saralata amaar... ekhon achey sudhoo klanti... kichu deen agey porjonto chilo agoon... dukkhoo. ananda... ekhon suddhoo klanti.. aar na jani ki shob
:-))

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